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A Dad’s Point-of-View: Things I Envy About My Kids
But, for the most part, my envy is just related to those things that have passed me by, that I’m too old to do or enjoy, or that didn’t even exist in one form or another during my childhood, college days, and young adulthood. However, I also am one of those “back in my days” kind of middle-aged guys who do enjoy reflecting on the simpler pleasures and simpler times that I remember so very well.
Nonetheless, this is going to be a list of things that I envy about my boys, what may be ahead for them in the future, and the many firsts they’re likely and hopefully going to experience. There is no order to this list:
~~ The excitement of First Love. My older son has already had both the excitement and the disappointment of a “first love.” I adored his girlfriend and felt almost as bad as he did when they broke up. She was the daughter I never had and she brought a lot of sunshine into our home during the year they were together. Now, I am waiting for a similar experience with my younger son. He’s quieter, more easily embarrassed by anything and everything I do, so I don’t even know if he’ll tell us if / when he’s having that “first love.”
~~ Going to college. Again, I will get to vicariously experience my older son’s college experience first. What I envy about his just begun college experience is that he is passionate about his choice of college and the direction he hopes to pursue – all in music. He’s going to such a cool school – The Berklee College of Music – and I envy the sure-to-be incredible times he’s already having! When we visited the campus for his audition last year and saw all they offered in the way of every toy, every form of music, dozens of practice rooms, extraordinary classes, performance opportunities galore, and a music library out of your dreams, blew me away. Only one word sums it up: WOW!
~~ The future. It seems obvious that the speed of emerging technologies is accelerating. I will likely miss the opportunity to go into space, to time travel, to travel a la Star Trek in “Beam me up, Scotty” style, and flying cars, etc. What will be we don’t know, but I have no doubt much of it will be very cool.
~~ The joy of becoming a parent. I became a dad four days after my 40th birthday so if / when I become a grandpa I will be pretty darn old. I don’t know if my boys will choose to have kids at all. I expect one or both will and my experience has gone by so quickly, that I wish I could do it all over again – even the horrible first two years!
~~ Driving. I’m now finishing up teaching my second son how to drive. I remember how much both he and his brother literally glowed when a friend of mine let them drive his truck on some nearby salt flats. The joy on their faces was priceless. With each boy, I’ve seen both the fear and excitement, as they got more and more confident in their driving skills. Later, as their lives progress and they get more (financially) independent, I expect they’ll get the same charge that I did upon purchasing their first car.
~~ Sex. I just realized I could pretty much use every word about “Driving” and apply it to sex. The first time happens just once. But, there are actually many first times. The first time you hold a girl’s hand, the first kiss, and, then going around the proverbial bases of the infield. Each base seemingly herculean to achieve and each one meriting a shout of joy and pride.
I have a poor memory but I remember taking my first crush to see Peter, Paul, and Mary at The Hollywood Bowl. I was 15; she was 16. We sat next to each other and I struggled for the entire concert to get up the strength to put my arm around her. I did the corny stretching my arms out and yawning. I did it all and finally by their encore, I achieved this milestone. Thank you Robin for accepting my feeble effort and giving this shy boy (at the time) a moment of unforgettable deep pleasure and accomplishment!
While I do envy these experiences my boys will have, I also look forward to hearing about them and vicariously reliving them. Theirs will be different than mine, but the feelings will be the same, I’m sure.
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Bruce Sallan, author of HYPERLINK "http://brucesallan.com/index.php/store"“A Dad’s Point-of-View: We ARE Half the Equation” and radio host of HYPERLINK "http://www.brucesallan.com/index.php/radio"“The Bruce Sallan Show – A Dad’s Point-of-View” gave up a long-term showbiz career to become a stay-at-home-dad. He has dedicated his new career to becoming THE Dad advocate. He carries out his mission with not only his book and radio show, but also his column HYPERLINK "http://www.brucesallan.com/index.php/mycolumn"“A Dad’s Point-of-View”, syndicated in over 100 newspapers and websites worldwide, his “I’m NOT That Dad” vlogs, the “Because I Said So” comic strip, and his dedication to his community on HYPERLINK "http://www.facebook.com/aDadsPointOfView"Facebook and HYPERLINK "http://twitter.com/BruceSallan"Twitter. Join Bruce and his community each Thursday for HYPERLINK "http://www.brucesallan.com/index.php/other/353-all-about-dadchat" #DadChat, from 6pm -7pm PST, the Tweet Chat that Bruce hosts.